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Chapter 5
Divorce is never
fun. It is especially hard when there
are three young children involved who you love more than anything on
Earth. I could go into all the details
of how it happened, why the marriage didn’t work and so on and so on. However, the reality was that after more than
13 years, my marriage had disintegrated until in early 2010 there was nothing
left other than for it to end.
Ultimately, we didn’t provide each other what the other needed and out
of respect to my ex-wife and our three boys, I will keep the particulars solely
between her and I, other than to see, we are all better off now. This is the first and last time I will
reference it in this blog.
What is important is that
I was in a very dark and lonely place. I
was lost and felt completely alone. My
friends and family were very worried about me and for good reason. But a serendipitous turn changed my life
forever. A chance encounter on Facebook
brought me back into contact with a woman I was madly in love with twenty years
earlier in my first year of college. In
a quirk of fate, she was going through a divorce at the exact same time I was. The connection was immediate and
overwhelming. Everyone else worried that
we were both moving too quickly and were out of our minds. But we both knew, and that’s what really
counted.
I intend to write a
memoir of the whole experience someday, but this is a pure example of two
people getting what they desperately needed at just the moment they both needed
it. We also had some amazing help from
the guy upstairs. The end result is that
I am happier now than I ever thought it was possible to be. My brother hit the nail on the head when he
went through something similar. He said:
“I walked outside one day and everything was
different. The world was alive all of a
sudden. The colors were brighter, the
birds were singing and everything just felt right for the first time.”
That was my experience when I held my
soulmate in my arms again for the first time in twenty years. We married in April of 2011 and I am so happy
to report that everyone – her, me, our five children and both of our ex’s are
happier and in much better places now.
It is truly an example of everyone being much better off.
But there was one thing
missing. I didn’t notice it until life
finally started to slow down. I was
really happy, but there was an itch that I needed to scratch. The writing bug had come back, but now I was
in a much better place to do something about it. And the best part…I have a person in my life that
is encouraging me unconditionally to go for it!
Next, where my writing now
stands and what I’m going to do about it.
-Chad
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